My mom used to always say, “Donda could fall in shit and come out smelling like roses”.
I never gave that comment much thought, only enjoyed the humor in it. But as usual, she’s right as ever.
If you are a mentally healthy individual, we all are aware we want to do our very best with anything we take on in life.
When you carry others issues on your shoulders, along with your own. If you find long overdue respect and communication is not reciprocated, that’s when your health is at risk. And I’ve got four more years of those damn cancer tests in NYC.
Anyway, this is something I struggle with regarding my loyalties to my past. I have since I was a young child. We all travel that pathway of growth with age, chipping away at what will bring happiness. While tastefully tossing out what brings unresolved pain.
If you’re told “you’re stress tactics are causing you to die young”, as my oncologist said to me, then it’s time to make a new plan.
I have definitely become stronger for my diagnosis of developing cancer from stress. Now more confident, a higher level of independence than ever, all due to an oncologist making that statement. Every single person in my life who cares about this comment shows it. It’s fascinating what one will learn in this particular position.
However, even though I am blessed in many ways so I tend to want to share it, I can still be too trusting. That’s where I am reminded I walk my talk.
I take action in who I say I am.
What goes around comes around.
Just the way it is, and that’s a good thing, for me.
Any time I make allowances for the ones who claim to have empathy, but show none. Or the ones who leave a trail of scattered promises, my eyes gain a new reflection of healthy insight.
The fact is, the actions – all of them – are your truth.
That’s all one can do. Wake up in the morning, dust off the inconsiderate soot, and move on.
What I like best is I will continue to genuinely care about others struggles, regardless of the time invested, but I will also carry on while making myself first. That will continue to be my reward.
If you take action in showing kindness in this self absorbed world, pat yourself on the back. Nobody else will. 😉
While doing so, do the things that make you feel good about yourself. Look around, enjoy the view. At that point, the lack of strength from others then won’t be obstructing your view.
What once formerly hurt me, now strengthens me.
Self respect is the unconditional love we all need to keep in place.
“Confidence .. Thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and unselfish performance. Without them confidence cannot live”.
The only good is knowledge and the only evil is ignorance.